June 3, 2014

  • TGTAI (Thank God They Aren't Inlaws!) yet...

    So it's summer and I'm in trouble. Real trouble now though, not even fun trouble. I dropped the sideshow to stick by the main act, and in doing so I dropped the only fun piece of trouble I've had this year. Fuck my life. Everyone except my immediate family keeps screwing me over. I would say that Carlton isn't screwing me over, but his horrible family members are the majority of my personal problems (so much so that their wrongdoings are extending to hurting even my fucking family), and none of that is Carlton's fault, but he has never ever stood up for me or my family, or even himself for that matter, to his monstrous parents. And they have literally STOLEN multiple times from both me and Carlton, and my family. They are the number one source of stress in my life, and Carlton not only won't stick up for me, but he won't even quit kissing their fucking asses left and right. Now, I understand the reason he continues to suck up to his father, (if he can even be called that - it honestly now just seems like an actual insult to real fathers out there, to even refer to that selfish dick by the word 'father') it's because his father, like his mother, is a selfish spoiled rotten idiot, BUT the only difference is that even though Tiffany (his mom) is the most selfish and immature "mother" I have ever met, it's easy to tell (sometimes) that she DOES indeed feel compassion for her son, whether bitter or not... But his father honestly has NO other motives for ever helping Carlton other than ultimately selfish reasons. I'm told he has suffered brain damage and therefore it's not his fault that he actually is incapable of caring for the person that HIS irresponsible teenage dick created if not for some sort of promise of self-gain in the end... But he isn't "retarded" by any means, and I'm very convinced that he is using this as an easy excuse to not have to take responsibility for the only good thing that has ever come from that asshole... The long point I'm not yet making, is that his dad can ONLY be sucked up to (and when I say sucking up... I mean SUCKING FUCKING UP.) in order to "help" Carlton, even minutely. And unfortunately, due to my parents being broke, and Carlton's rich family being scumbags, we are in a terrible position that requires some amount of extra help. And yes, I know it's jerky and cliche to "blame the parents" for our poverty issue, but we WERE doing GREAT, and needed only as much assistance as the next twenty something year old. But then our house burned down and we got screwed. It's only been downhill from there, and Carlton's family acts like it's our fault that we aren't in the same position that their rich asses are in. So it IS their faults now, and those two "parents" really have dropped the ball on their kid, just because they aren't legally supposed to take care of him now that he's an adult... This of course, is not okay with me, but at least the blow would be a little softer if Carlton could only follow the logic I am, that if they have decided that 18 years old means that they are finally cut free from their irresponsible teenage mistake, then he should decide that 18 years old means finally being cut free from having to deal with those people. (And the 'mistake' I'm referring to, is NOT of having Carlton - but of the terribly mistaken decision they made that they were capable of caring for another human being at such an immature age - yeah, yeah, I know; we all know that ONE teenager who had her kid in high school and still managed to put herself through college and now has a good career, and yes the poor bastard kid has been happy and well cared for the whole time, yada yada; there are exceptions to every rule. But let's face it, the vast majority of 18 year olds are only dooming the poor children they do the honor of "keeping"... And what a demeaning fucking word for those of us who actually chose a better life for the child they created, by granting them the Chance at a real family who really wanted a kid, who will really help and care for the kid, even though, believe it or not!, they actually DID want to keep the kid for themselves... But THAT doesn't deserve a sweet word like "keeping", nope. That's called "giving him up"... Giving fucking up... THAT'S what the parents who care enough about their child to break their OWN heart over him are doing. And all the 18 year old Tiffany's in the world are praised and thrown money at left and right, because they did the "right thing", and "kept" their child... FUCK THAT, they are HORRIBLE parents.) BUT Carlton refuses to quit kissing their asses, and that is where enlies the core problem.. Essentially, he's choosing them over me, whether if only for pussy reasons or not. But his father's assistance can ONLY come from a stroked ego and a kissed ass, so I actually can't fault Carlton for that one.. It's unfortunate, but necessary. But his mother?? Like I said, she IS the worst mother I've ever known, but at least it is somewhat evident that IF a situation ever arose where she knew she would not gain anything from helping her son in crisis, well, she would bitch about it to no end, comfortably atop her expensive high and mighty tower, but I do think that she would probably come through for him. At least that's good. But even though it would be SLIGHTLY unfair to her if Carlton ever did cut it out with powdering her ass, but continued to give that evil fucking father of his the star treatment, just because he's SLIGHTLY the more selfish parent, it still isn't enough to outweigh her selfishness and warrant being respected in any way by her son. So when Carlton kisses her creepy fat ass, THAT is NOT excusable to me... There is no reason for him to keep up the charade that she is a good mother, or ever has been. She's just still the little spoiled whore she was in high school when she decided that she was mature enough to care for another person. She still thinks she's a good mother, and she still uses that as her precious little excuse for all her shortcomings... It's not her fault that she's irresponsible and drunk as hell 24/7 and is more creepily obsessed with Facebook than any other thing in her life, including people - because gosh darnit, the poor thing never had the CHANCE at a normal young life because of the selfless burden she accepted of taking on a child at such an early age... But no one ever stops to think that adoption was a viable option back then, and she knew that. It actually just looks a lot better, and you get a lot more money, if you "keep" your unwanted child... Back up. How do I know that she knew about adoption back then? Because she GAVE UP her second kid. Selfless, right? Well, no. Apparently that was the kid she had that came from a short affair that ended her marriage with Carlton's dad, less than a year after his birth, and since the dad opted out, she knew she wouldn't get any child support out of the whole deal. (Honestly, a GOOD choice. It's NOT irresponsible if a father who knows he can't or won't care properly for a child, relinquishes their parental rights... It's SO taboo, and SO looked down upon - even more so than women - for a man to do that. But consider the alternative: an unready father who is too proud to suffer the slings and arrows of 15 minutes of shame, to save the child he created, well, he could just end up the same jerk that Carlton's dad is... And in the end, the child has the best chance if that father manned up and accepted the fact that the outcome would indeed be harmful to his creation.) Funny how she managed to keep both kids who were as good as a gaurantee for 18 years of free money for ipads, Coach purses, and shiny new cars, yet her only "selfless" decision made towards the life of her baby, was also the only one who didn't come with a cash prize. Soooo selfless. Fucking cunt. Anywho, I have to pee and I'm tired of bitching. I really needed to rant though, it feels great to finally get all this out of me, even if no one will ever read it. At least the resentment isn't just sitting there stewing inside of me anymore. Thanks for being like a selfless parent at times, Xanga. You're always here to lend your honest ear, even after months of my wayward child acts... Thanks, just thanks.